Sunday, November 09, 2008
I have been through this b4.
The turmoil, pain & struggles of nurturing a relationship or a relationship-to-be.
Though all of these kinds of stress seem to have subsided alreadi & I am on the process of moving on, i am still posting this.
This post is not about me anymore but rather about the people around me, especially those who are currently facing the pressures of all aspects of being in a relationship.
Sometimes people tend to be very demanding.
Your loved one is alreadi doin all they can to pls u and can even go to the extent of not being that close to their female/male best friends just becoz you would give them the cold shoulder or smth, due to ur jealousy.
Then when it came to you being with your guy/girl friends, your bf/gf gets jealous & you still make so much noise.
So your bf/gf have to endure the pain for the rest of his/her time in a relationship with you?
How much pain you want them to endure further?
Is this how you want them to spend their time with you?
Being deprived of freedom and certain happiness just to satisfy your selfish needs?
Come on -.-
Being in a relationship is not about your happiness alone but about both of your happiness.
Compromise
The most irritating & hurting comment from your loved ones," You don't deserve someone like me," or " You deserve someone better " etc.
haiz. comments like these cause unnecessary trouble & turmoil don't u noe? >.>
You both love each other, happily spending time together but still one of you jokers still want to giv this kind of saying and hurt each other unnecessarily.
Obviously the person you love deserves someone better.
But mind it, the person chose YOU.
Spend the times u both are having together to the fullest.
Treasure these moments instead of worrying over nth.
Don't go pushing him/her away just becoz there is another person hu likes him/her and u tink tt person is better than you(smarter, more handsome, more pretty, more caring, wadever u can tink of -.-). [unless u abuse him/her or smth. besides when u abuse, u wldnt want to let tt person off so easily since u dun realli love him/her and u onli want to continue to satisfy ur "needs". ]
If you think that this kind of thinking is a way of expressing true love then...i have nothing to say.
You don't want him/her to be hurt yet u contradict urself by hurting him/her with such words and mentality.
You do ur own reflection.
Last but not least for this post, like wad everyone says and emphasises, the need for communication.
Communication is important, not onli in BGRelationships.
When you want to get jobs done well and right, you need communication.
When you want to understand and be understood, u nid communication.
How do you tink bfs and gfs go on to become husbands and wives?
Precisely, love, communication & understanding.
If you realli loved him/her(bf/gf), you would try your
best to go all out to communicate, without worrying about ur
reputation.
best to go all out to communicate, without worrying about ur
reputation.
besides, he/she will understand your efforts one way or another. lol
What's the point of keeping your "face" when the cost of doing so is losing someone whom you love dearly?
Get my point?
i have to compliment jimmy and qinhua for their efforts on kiping their relationship going despite all odds.
they have been thru alot together- fighting, misunderstanding, jealousy, etc.
but still, notwithstanding these stressful moments, they were able to take these testing-times to strengthen their bond together and not the other way round.
reason being, they were willing to communicate with each other - apologising when they were in the wrong(most of the time lols), compromise when there was a need, supporting each other at times of crisis etc. and most importantly, they trust and love each other.
so jimmy can happily spend time wif his frens notwithstanding their gender, qinhua as well, and they both have ample freedom and choice to make in their lives.
see, if they can make the effort, y not the other couples?
sheesh..sometimes ppl just follow the story lines of dramas blindly.
so much so that they are unable to think for themselves.
yes this post may sound mean, rude, displeasing etc etc most of the time.
But ppl, this is meant to wake each and everyone of you up frm ur dramatic world.
of course im not saying tt everything is wrong in dramas but hey, most of the things are just to make the show interesting and entertaining >.>
ive learnt alot frm my previous hurdle and im just here to share wif u some of the things tt ive learnt.
wake up, come back to
reality.
reality.
start thinking and dont
follow the world blindly.
tts all i can say, for now.